Dysfunction 1: Absence of Trust, page 195.
- Unfortunately, the word trust is used –and misused– so often that has lost some of its impact and begins to sound like motherhood and apple pie.
- In the context of building a team, trust is the confidence among team members that their peers’ intentions are good, and that there is no reason to be protective or careful around the group.
- Teammates must be comfortable being vulnerable with one another and confident that their respective vulnerabilities will not be used against them.
- These vulnerabilities include weaknesses, skill deficiencies, interpersonal shortcomings, mistakes, and requests for help.
- It is only when team members are truly comfortable being exposed to one another that they begin to act without concern for protecting themselves.
- Achieving vulnerability-based trust is difficult. This is because in the course of career advancement and education, most successful people learn to be competitive with their peers, and protective of their reputations.
- It is a challenge for them to turn those instincts off for the good of a team, but that is exactly what is required.
- Teams that lack trust waste inordinate amounts of time and energy managing their behaviors and interactions within the group.
- Teams that lack trust dread team meetings, and are reluctant to take risks in asking for or offering assistance to others.
Members of Teams with an Absence of Trust…
- Conceal their weaknesses and mistakes from one another.
- Hesitate to ask for help or provide constructive feedback.
- Hesitate to offer help outside their own areas of responsibility.
- Jump to conclusions about the intentions and attitudes of others without attempting to clarify them.
- Fail to recognize and tap into one another’s skills and experiences.
- Waste time and energy managing their behavior for the effect.
- Hold grudges.
- Dread meetings and find reasons to avoid spending time together.
Members of Trusting Teams…
- Admit weaknesses and mistakes.
- Ask for help.
- Accept questions and input about their areas of responsibility.
- Give one another the benefit of the doubt before arriving at a negative conclusion.
- Take risks and offer feedback and assistance.
- Appreciate and tap into one another’s skills and experiences.
- Focus time and energy on important issues, not politics.
- Offer and accept apologies without hesitation.
- Look forward to meetings and other opportunities to work as a group.
Suggestions for Overcoming Dysfunction One
- Unfortunately, the vulnerability base trust cannot be achieved overnight.
- Vulnerability-Based Trust requires:
- Shared experiences over time.
- Multiple instances of follow-through and credibility.
- An in-depth understanding of the unique attributes of team members.
- However, by taking a focused approach, a team can dramatically accelerate the process.
Tools for accelerating trust building:
- Personal History‘s Exercise (60 minutes):
- Go around the table during a meeting and have team members answer a short list of questions about themselves:
- Number of siblings
- Hometown
- Unique challenges of childhood
- Favorite hobbies
- First job
- Worst job
- Team Effectiveness Exercise (60 minutes):
- Go around the table during a meeting and have team members answer:
- The single most important contribution that each of their peers makes to the team.
- One area that each peer must either improve upon or eliminate for the good of the team.
- The beginning focus should be directed toward the team leader.
- Personality and Behavioral Preference Profiles (4 hours).
- 360 Degree Feedback.
- Experiential Team Exercises.
The Role of the Leader
- The most important action that the leader must take to encourage the building of trust is to demonstrate vulnerability first.
- Team leaders must create an environment that does not punish vulnerability.
- Displays of vulnerability on the part of the team leader must be genuine; they cannot be staged.
Connection to Dysfunction 2
- By building trust, a team makes conflict possible. Team members do not hesitate to engage in passionate and sometimes emotional debate.